“Love yourself before you love him”
“Love is an emotional process, Compatibility is the logical one.”
It’s been a week, I got hit by this line and it subtly compelled me to write a blog on this.
It starts with some mystified thoughts, that “can’t stop staring” feelings.
Be it beauty, humor, hotness, boldness, any and every small bit is capable enough to reprogram your mind when this phase invades you.
It comes with a time stamp, we call it ‘infatuation’.
But when the globe has not whirled since long for you when your heart is screaming and thoughts are loafing around on daily basis, you finally realize, you are no more in that phase, you are in more than that.
You are in love.
You swing in love, slay in love, believe in love and lose yourself in the ocean full of emotions, not even knowing that some of its waves are so damn evasive and deceitful.
that you both are together, you have become your own photon factory. You are all set to conquer the stars with the twinkle in your eyes.
Your goals seem more achievable now. The bloodstream is constantly gushing with happy hormones.
But,“Happy times never reveal the real you” and when reality is not picture, everything is happening and cool.
Our life can not be plot on a straight line graph, ups and downs are its coordinates.
And here comes the test, whether you are able to stand both the axes or not.
Everyday gets you some moments,harsh, unfavorable, demanding but,you never panic and walk together, even if your partner doesn’t give a fuck to your problem. Because that’s what is love, baby!!
Irrespective of the imperiled health of your relation, you still want to hold him,unable to see that your worth is going down, your self-respect is getting drowned. But you have to have him.Because love is most important, right?
If nature can saturate, why can’t we?
Now, when your stagnancy pisses you off daily, and your issues are still not considered,when you are unable to respire, you burst, crash, thrash everything on your way.
You realize working hard in a relationship was actually being harsh on yourself.
You blame yourself, keep dying in guilt that you fell for a wrong person, you are nonsensical, idiot, easily driven, so on and so forth.
Hey!! It is OK to fall in love, you never intended to hurt anyone when you went for that.You never intended to hurt yourself rather.
It happens, so did that.
Guilt comes with a heavy toll, it ruptures your mind and makes you insensitive towards yourself. So stop there,
I know, love is special, but you are more!
“Love is the best way to celebrate your life until you don’t make ‘love’ as your life.”
What are you worried about?
Darling, You won’t die single…
But make sure you always treat yourself on priority. You are a wonderful creation, so always love yourself before you love him. This is not being mean or selfish, believe me, when you have ample of love within you, you never search for it. You just give it effortlessly. Never be harsh on yourself, never regret on your decisions.
You never fall in love first and then enter into a relation. And it is not the love but compatibility that decides the tenure of a healthy happy relationship.
So, be with one, you never feel that stagnancy anymore, because he knows the purpose of your life.
Be with someone who takes you as his priorities, who respects your dignity, who nourishes your mind, your life, who knows how precious is peace.
Who doesn’t defines your edges, refines them!
Who doesn’t change you, upgrades you!
When emotions will leave you stuck in the middle,
Logic will surely rescue you.
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