“Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice and have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.”
– Steve Jobs
Today I had a small discussion (heated one) on school friend’s WhatsApp group. One of my friends posted a photo of his religious guru with one very absurd worldly quote. In this statement, he is teaching women to serve their Men with food, not the mental garbage of their daily chaos. He states that women have a bad habit to increase the trouble of their already troubled husbands. Women will serve two chapatis and two hundred problems to their husbands. He asked women to have mercy on their husbands and let them eat food and asked women not to eat their husband’s mental peace.
I could not digest this statement and I openly opposed that a “Guru” should not give this kind of statements. He should not comment on any specific gender. The moment I opposed it, everybody was so furious and I started getting verbal attacks from many that how I could say anything negative for their “Guru”. I told them that I am not saying anything negative but I am not agreeing with his saying and not convinced with the way he has generalized his statement. How can he say such things about women? I appreciate Him numerous time for his valuable and knowledgeable teachings, but if I don’t find something appropriate, I will surely criticize that.
I was so strongly putting my points that one of them alleged that my spirit of life is false. He said “You only talk big but you can’t respect a Guru. You can’t control your anger.” I said him that I did not disrespect any person and that I can never do. If questioning something (which you think is correct but I don’t) hits your ego then there is a need for introspection. If putting my thoughts openly, honestly, and forcefully is an expression of anger then this is your mindset. I don’t even bother to change.
I know I have lost my so called “ideal image” in their eyes but I was happy that I did not let my opinions choked in their cumulative clatter.
Sometimes these conversations help us to revise the conceptual understanding about life and the way of living.
Everybody has grown up with a different mind conditioning. Everybody is unique. How can you personify somebody else’s thought process and vice versa? Don’t try to be perfect as per other’s definitions. It’s better to be truthfully imperfect than deceptively flawless. You can not please everybody with everything you do. Why pretend to be so good? If you try to make thousand people happy, one person will always be unhappy and frowned, that’s “You.” If you are convinced with something, go ahead. If you will keep on convincing the entire crowd, you will be jammed at the same place and paralyzed.
Believe in yourself and your choices. People are there to criticize you just because you don’t think exactly the same way they think. They will call you mad because you determine yourself to do something which they don’t even dare to think. People will raise finger at you. They call you abnormal because you are not a stereotype person. Because you are not following the set pattern. They will blame you being immodest because you don’t say YES to everything.
You may sound alien to many, enjoy this exceptionality.They will not only pull you down but also be unhappy with you. Let them alleged you an arrogant person, let them mutter a thousand words against you.Whatever happens, keep going, keep growing and remember the story of the “Deaf Frog.”
Those who are genuine with you will be with you forever. You will never require any extra efforts to make them happy. They will be contented with your real self. Those who really understand you will always stand by you.
“Don’t chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing and work hard. The right people – the ones who really belong in your life – will come to you. And stay.” -Will Smith