Life presents to us the different cycles starting from childhood, teenager to bachelor then married and finally entering into parenting.Every stage of life provides you experience and motivation to transform your life which creates a lifetime memory.
I was new to this parenting challenge and it was my real-time test that day when my daughter requires intrinsic motivation and I need to originate it first.
“Get up kid, It is already 7 am, this is a great day for you.” We have this great opportunity in our hands.
My daughter showing signs of half asleep and eventually she got up ,took her bath and started to get ready.
She was spooked, silent and started protesting, I don’t want to go. I will miss all my friends in my present school.
I realised convincing the kid to change for a new school was more challenging than asking her to avoid junk food.
She felt unhappy and tears started falling from her eyes.
As a parent I realized, it was imperative to give her teaching which can imprint in her mind forever.
The intrinsic motivation is of utmost importance.
In people’s eye, you become a big celebrity , but when you are alone, you are eating depression pills.
It is happening because the celebrity is not seeing himself with his eye, he is watching this world from people’s eye.
When people praised him, he went so high as he got the extrinsic motivation.
When people didn’t like him, people made him fell down and the celebrity felt horrible.
This situation arises when we don’t believe in having intrinsic motivation and start cursing situations, problems and people around us.When someone praises, you feel high and when it is not happening you are unhappy.
At first, my daughter was apprehensive and upon my fact-finding, she admitted the clear-cut reason of feeling insecure is due to non-preparation of the examination. She also confessed two years back , I got confused during this admission examination conducted at her present school and I didn’t shared my feelings with anyone at home. Nevertheless, she cleared the examination that time and got admitted.
The concern sounded genuine to me, but I had to convince her to appear in one of the best convent schools in the city and most importantly, I wanted to remove the fear of failure from her mind.
As a parent it was a challenging situation. What to do? Kids behave like that. You need to handle it perfectly.
How to use parenting motivation?
I started telling her she can attempt.I made her realize the importance of being risk-taker as I want her to see this situation as opportunity not insecurity.
I remarked – My daughter, repeat after me ,
“I will try my best. If I fail, I will get up again.
If I fail, I will get up again.
I will try my best.”
Putting in energy is different, energy coming from inside is altogether a different thing.
With five repetitions of these lines, I said, we wouldn’t say anything to you now.
Take this experience and move on. Feel happy as we are always with you.
She felt reawakened again.
As the child grows, there is a sense they develop to understand the gimmicks and tricks to develop and communicate in the society. Many times a child doesn’t know that their assumptions are incorrect about the situations of life and that converts into their empowering belief. It is common for adults as well once not corrected.
If you are greatest in your eyes, no one can degrade you, demean you or defeat you.
A different energy will come out from you always.
You are all charged up and you realize that intrinsic motivation has such a big role in your life.
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